Blessings of Adoption
Contemplating adoption? Listen to what women and men who chose adoption have to say:
Birth Mother
“I’m 39 years-old and can’t remember a time in my life when I was more confused or more afraid than when I found out I was pregnant,” says Dianne, a single-mom of a college student.
“I had so much support during and even after my pregnancy. I was surprised to learn that, as the birth parent, I was able to make all the decisions concerning my little girl. I selected her adoptive parents and even chose to receive letters and pictures of her as she grows.
My little girl was a good thing, but at a bad time. She is the greatest blessing her adoptive parents have ever known. It gives me so much comfort and joy, knowing that my little girl is happy and so loved. I know the choice I made to place her for adoption was the best choice for us both. I am proud to be a birth mom.”
Birth Father
Phil, a 31-year-old birth father has this to share:
“My girlfriend did not want to raise the child–even with my help–but she didn’t feel comfortable with abortion either. It became clear that adoption would be the best option and the easiest to live with in the years to come.
We chose a semi-open adoption–we would not know the last names of the couple and after placement we would have no further contact with them except for an occasional letter sent through the agency.
When the baby was born we were able to see and hold her. It was a tearful moment saying goodbye to the new parents and the little girl we’d helped create. It was time to begin the healing process. We visited a local support group and talked about how a family somewhere is happier because of us…”
Adoptive Mother
Bonnie, adoptive parent:
“In our mid 20s we adopted our first baby, a girl and two years later, we adopted our second baby, a boy. Five months later, I had a baby girl, so we had three kids under three years old! We had lots of bottles and diapers and help from family. We included adoption and birth pictures, birthdays and special occasions in our children’s baby books and made sure each child had special memories recorded. We never for one minute thought our adopted children were different from our biological child. We loved, and still love them, as God’s gifts to us.”
Adoptive Father
Derek is an adoption social worker in the field of child welfare and behavioral health. He and his wife have 8 children, 6 of whom are adopted.
“What happens when you adopt? Your children don’t look like you. Your adoptive sons…look like another man. I decided a long time ago that that was ok. I decided that if I couldn’t pass down my genes and my rugged good looks, I would pass down my values, my love, my resources, and my faith to my kids. I would provide each with consistency, stability, connection, affection, and a love that my children may not have had otherwise.”
If you’re pregnant and thinking about adoption, Adoption Associates has caseworkers available 24/7 to meet in person or virtually. Adoption Associates is a Michigan adoption agency serving pregnant women and families throughout the state. Text (248) 283-4673 or call (616) 667-0677.
