An unexpected pregnancy can bring a wave of emotions. But when your partner, parents, or someone else is telling you what you should do, it can feel even harder to think clearly. You may be afraid of disappointing someone, losing a relationship, or facing the future alone.
If you are pregnant and feeling pressured, you deserve the time, information, and support to consider your options without threats or intimidation.
Recognizing Pregnancy Pressure
Pressure can take many forms. Someone might demand that you have an abortion, threaten to leave you, or use money, housing, or emotional support to influence your decision.
When someone uses threats or controlling behavior to influence a pregnancy decision, it may be a form of reproductive coercion. The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists recognizes pregnancy pressure and coercion as important concerns.
Whatever your circumstances, you do not have to dismiss your feelings or make a decision simply to satisfy someone else.
Three Steps to Help You Think Clearly
1. Give yourself room to process
You may feel frightened, uncertain, relieved, or experience several emotions at once. You do not need to have every answer immediately. Write down your questions and consider what matters most to you.
2. Get reliable information
Understanding your pregnancy and the options available can help you make informed decisions. A pregnancy test can confirm pregnancy, while an ultrasound can provide information about the pregnancy's location (in the uterus?), development, and estimated gestational age (how far along you are). Discuss your medical questions with a qualified health professional.
3. Find someone you can talk to privately
Choose a trusted person or professional who will listen without pressuring you. If you fear someone's reaction or feel unsafe, consider speaking with a domestic violence prevention advocate about confidential support and safety planning. If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services..
You Don't Have to Face an Unexpected Pregnancy Alone
At Another Way Pregnancy Center in Farmington Hills, Michigan, you can discuss your concerns in a private setting and learn about available pregnancy support services. The center offers free, confidential pregnancy testing, limited obstetric ultrasound, and pregnancy options information. You can ask questions, share concerns, and take time to consider your next steps.
Take the next step at your own pace. Call or text Another Way Pregnancy Center at (248) 471-5858 to schedule a free, confidential appointment. Transportation assistance and childcare are available, if either would make your visit easier.
You deserve accurate information, compassionate support, and the opportunity to think through your circumstances.
If you are experiencing pregnancy-related pressure or coercion, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is also available by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or by texting START to 88788.
